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Correcting Undesired Behavior with positive results
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 Read detailed explanations, examples, and role-playing experiences in the parent's manual to raising children in a positive way, The Power of Positive Parenting. |
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Child Behavior Topic of Tantrums |
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Tantruming behavior, though bizarre, dramatic, and outlandish, is simple a child's uncivilized way of getting what he wants, and can be remediated. The instant a child begins to tantrum, attention must be turned away from him even to the point of walking away, or putting him into time-out. Use the zero tolerance model. Regardless of how long the child continues to tantrum, he should be given no attention whatsoever, Furthermore, the child should be left alone for a few minutes after he has quit the tantrum before he is given any attention whatsoever. When the child is not tantruming, appropriate behavior should be acknowledged and reinforced. When it is necessary to attend to a tantrum, be unemotional, direct, and brief in your interaction. Say as few words as possible, have as little physical contact as possible, and don't mention the tantrum. Simply say, "When you behave this way you may not be with us," then take the child away from the company of others. If he has to be taken there kicking and screaming, so be it. Just handle it with as little show of emotion or concern as possible. If there is a good chance the child will tantrum when he is away from home, either leave him home, or have a plan prepared in advance to deal with the tantrum in that new setting. For example, if you are going to visit friends or relatives, you might ask them in advance if there is a place where your child can be put for time-out in case he does have a tantrum. Whatever you do, prepare options in advance in the event they are needed. What has been suggested here has been used successfully in many, many families. I know it works, but I also know that situations vary from family to family and child to child. But the basics are sound and apply to all families. All children need love, all children need positive attention for those things they do properly, and they all want and need their parents' support. I urge you to give them that support in a calm, controlled, precise, loving way, even during a tantrum. Product References Find more detailed examples, role-playing, experiences, and explanations in audio, visual, and printed media on our Products page.. The Power of Positive Parenting (book); pp 217-226 Parenting Prescriptions (audio); tape: vol 1, side 1 |
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